Silence or Violence: Logan, Suicide, and the Culture of Masculine Silence

Silence or Violence: Logan, Suicide, and the Culture of Masculine Silence

Our friend Logan killed himself today. I wish we had known how badly he was hurting. We just spent most of this past weekend with him, and had no idea things were nearly this bad. If we had known, maybe we could have helped. But maybe not. These things don’t come from nowhere. It’s kind of a no-shit thing to say in hindsight that Logan had struggled with depression. Thing is, many people do, and never take their pain as far as this. It’s also kind of a no-shit statement to say that I wish I had known he was Read more »

Coyote Needs a Dog (GoFundMe Campaign)

Coyote Needs a Dog (GoFundMe Campaign)

Coyote Ashley Ward is one of us.   By “us,” I mean, she’s a badass everyday hero – a mom, a lover, a survivor of the sorts of everyday battles you don’t see in the movies. Despite an array of physical and neurological challenges that she’s had since before she was born, Coyote brings love and insight and power and joy to her small corner of our world. Over ten years ago, back when we first met, she helped me get through one of the worst weekends of my life. Since then, she’s become one of my favorite people on Read more »

Cat's Story: Straight, Inc. and Why I Despise Nancy Reagan

Cat's Story: Straight, Inc. and Why I Despise Nancy Reagan

The day before yesterday, I posted the essay “Good Riddance, You Brutalizing Hag,” about my experiences with Nancy Reagan’s pet project, Straight Inc., and the damage that it did. In that article, I said that the things that happened to my girlfriend in the program were not my story to tell. She decided, for reasons of healing, to tell that story. Here it is, posted verbatim with her approval. The rest of this post is in Cathi’s own words. It is long, but important. _______________________________________ One November day during my Senior year of High School at Osbourn Park in Manassas, Read more »

Good Riddance, You Brutalizing Hag

Good Riddance, You Brutalizing Hag

Thirty years later, my then-girlfriend and her fellow inmates still live with the psychological and often physical scars of their abuse. Some of them didn’t survive. Her brother is one of them. After the insurance refused to pay for more “treatment,” he was released from Straight, supposedly drug-free. He died a few years afterward.

THAT was Nancy Reagan’s America.

THAT is what she left behind…

“Race Music” (Music, Magic & History, Part IX)

“Race Music” (Music, Magic & History, Part IX)

It’s hard to really hear her voice with all the jigaboo music — whatever you want to call it — jigaboo!  – Kristi Capel, Fox News anchor, referring to a performance by the Italian-American artist Lady Gaga (2015) As becomes obvious when you look at the history of modern music (explored in previous articles from this series), racism forms the bedrock of music as we know it now. The loathsome “triangle” slave trade forced people from West and Central Africa together with European colonists (some of whom owned slaves, many of whom did not), along with the Scottish, Irish, and Read more »

Not Sanskrit for "Doormat"

Not Sanskrit for "Doormat"

Recently – especially within the last week or so – I’ve had a number of folks tell me that they used to idolize me and my work for opening their minds, and yet they’re somehow surprised that I feel disgusted and enraged by sexism, racism, homophobia, and the willful ignorance that leads to such behavior. Anyone who feels that I should turn a blind eye to abusive behavior has missed the point of my work. Yes, I believe in having an open mind. I have also – in all of my work – stressed that actions and choices have consequences. Read more »

Murder, Terrorism, Treason – Call Them What They Are

Murder, Terrorism, Treason – Call Them What They Are

MURDER. (a) Murder is the unlawful killing of a human being with malice aforethought. Every murder perpetrated by poison, lying in wait, or any other kind of willful, deliberate, malicious, and premeditated killing; or committed in the perpetration of, or attempt to perpetrate, any arson, escape, murder, kidnapping, treason, espionage, sabotage, aggravated sexual abuse or sexual abuse, child abuse, burglary, or robbery; or perpetrated as part of a pattern or practice of assault or torture against a child or children; or perpetrated from a premeditated design unlawfully and maliciously to effect the death of any human being other than him Read more »

It IS About Race

It IS About Race

You can say that this is not about race. But you’d be wrong. Oh, it’s not ONLY about race. It’s also about economic class warfare, militarized police forces, the profitability of fear-based mass media, and the pervasive culture of bullying, selfish entitlement that has been sold to us under the guise of “American values,” especially within the last decade or so. But it IS about race. American cops do not drive up to, attack, assault and then murder white kids in the street, in broad daylight, and believe they can get away with it. Police forces do not close ranks, arrest Read more »

Stigma, Disorders, and Shame

Stigma, Disorders, and Shame

“…Like many people with depression, Stacy bought into long-held public attitudes toward the condition. Her self-stigma delayed her treatment, increased her isolation, warped her self-image and lowered her self-esteem—a closed-circuit loop that only deepens depression…” Although I do not, thankfully, suffer, from chronic depression, many people I know and love do so. And yes, this article is dead-on. Beyond the subject of chronic depression, I DO have several sensory-processing disorders: dyslexia, dyscalculia, and perhaps a touch of Asperger Syndrome as well. (I seem to have overcome most of it, but my childhood was textbook Aspie.) And although those disorders are Read more »